Thursday, 23 January 2014

Accept the Things I Can Not Change . . .


While it may seem cliche, it doesn't make it any less true. Life can sometimes seem overwhelming. We all feel this from time to time, but you just have to learn to accept what's thrown at you. There are a lot of things we can't control, so don't lose to much sleep over them. Concentrate on what you can control and move forward. You might be thinking give me concrete examples. So here goes.

Unfortunately we will all experience the loss of a loved one. Heart disease, cancer, or old age. It doesn't matter. This is never an easy thing, but it is an inevitable part of life. Of course you're going to grieve, that's normal and you should. What you can't do is stop living. You're loved ones expect you to go on. Honour their memory and make the most of the time you have. You don't control the circumstance that caused the loss of your loved one, but you do control how you move forward from this.

At other times you might find yourself in the middle of a financial crises. Perhaps you've been out of work for six months, your savings are exhausted, and your credits tapped. Things seem hopeless and you're ready to give up. Don't.  Control your reaction to the crisis. Constantly work on improving your resume. Practise your interview skills. Upgrade your skills. Don't just accept defeat. You might think you're doing everything you can, but you can always do more.

What about losing a custody battle? This is in the hands of the courts right? There's nothing you can do to beat the system. Not true. Do everything you can do to prove your worth as a parent. Live a clean life. Always be there for your child when needed. Take them places, show them things. Make every moment you have with them count. You might not be able to control the decisions of the court, but you can certainly influence them. Stay positive.

These are all examples of how we react to things that are out of our control, but there are also time where we can take control from the start. In my next blog I'll look at some of these examples. Thanks for stopping by!